I hope that you all are enjoying your week. As I took the time to fill my agenda with my daily obligations (such as work meetings and school deadlines) I began to ask myself, “Am I spending the majority of my time doing things that I love or at least something that brings me joy?”.
I realize that we all have obligations to work, school, or even social events that we would rather cross off our literal or figurative calendars, but that is just not the reality we live in. What I strive for in my own life is balance.
I realize that it is easier said than done, but trust me, it makes all of the difference. For every terribly boring task I am able to complete, I reward myself with something that brings me joy.
Such things include:
- Watching an hour of YouTube
- Reading for pleasure
- Calling a friend
- Painting my nails
- Applying a glorious facemask
- Buying an article of clothing
Granted, each reward is awarded based on the amount of tasks completed or the complexity or time of a project. Having equated ratios is also key.
Another thing I am striving for this month is to weed out habits, people, and commitments that are toxic or that distract me from the important things in life.
I often find myself being that “yes” person, never wanting to disappoint or let anyone down (even if it is at my expense). One of the many things that brings me joy in life is helping others and volunteering, but on the other hand, I am a people pleaser so I allow these acts of service to take over every weekend and fill every gap of freetime that I have.
Again, balance keeps the unnecessary stresses at bay. Saying “yes” less often and removing myself from people and environments that make me feel inferior will improve my self-esteem and self-worth. In my twenty-four years of life on this Earth, I have come to the conclusion that you cannot please everyone and that I am allowed to put myself first. I should not allow myself to be put in an environment that leaves me feeling as though I need to change who I am in order to find approval from others. It simply is not worth it. This month I want to make small changes that will increase my happiness and genuinely alter my mindset and perspective in a positive way. I know that it is possible because I used to live that way. 2019 is the year that this effortful behavior continues.