Big Little Differences

Hey all!

I hope that you all are enjoying your week. As I took the time to fill my agenda with my daily obligations (such as work meetings and school deadlines) I began to ask myself, “Am I spending the majority of my time doing things that I love or at least something that brings me joy?”.

I realize that we all have obligations to work, school, or even social events that we would rather cross off our literal or figurative calendars, but that is just not the reality we live in. What I strive for in my own life is balance.

I realize that it is easier said than done, but trust me, it makes all of the difference. For every terribly boring task I am able to complete, I reward myself with something that brings me joy.

Such things include:

  • Watching an hour of YouTube
  • Reading for pleasure
  • Calling a friend
  • Painting my nails
  • Applying a glorious facemask
  • Journalling
  • Buying an article of clothing
  • Etc.,

Granted, each reward is awarded based on the amount of tasks completed or the complexity or time of a project. Having equated ratios is also key.

Another thing I am striving for this month is to weed out habits, people, and commitments that are toxic or that distract me from the important things in life.

I often find myself being that “yes” person, never wanting to disappoint or let anyone down (even if it is at my expense). One of the many things that brings me joy in life is helping others and volunteering, but on the other hand, I am a people pleaser so I allow these acts of service to take over every weekend and fill every gap of freetime that I have.

Again, balance keeps the unnecessary stresses at bay. Saying “yes” less often and removing myself from people and environments that make me feel inferior will improve my self-esteem and self-worth. In my twenty-four years of life on this Earth, I have come to the conclusion that you cannot please everyone and that I am allowed to put myself first. I should not allow myself to be put in an environment that leaves me feeling as though I need to change who I am in order to find approval from others. It simply is not worth it. This month I want to make small changes that will increase my happiness and genuinely alter my mindset and perspective in a positive way. I know that it is possible because I used to live that way. 2019 is the year that this effortful behavior continues.






Flashback Friday: 1 

It’s always nice to look back on the greatest times in life and just appreciate all the incredible people and experiences that have influenced you along the way. Every Friday, I’ll post a “flashback Friday” to give all of you an insight into who I am and some  of the things that bring me joy.  

 This photo was taken two months ago in Mexico. I was so fortunate to have gotten the opportunity to take a cruise to Catalina island and Mexico for spring break. This photo is so special to me because it reminds me why I want to continue to travel. Traveling to a new place can be daunting and a little odd at times, but the experiences and impression it leaves is priceless! 

~sincerely, the reminiscer 


The Time is Now 

I have been researching different organizations and ways of traveling, but I want to know first hand: how should I go about it? 

I am on the verge of selling everything I own and moving to Australia. I do not want to live the typical 9-5 all my life. I want to explore, I want to be cultured, I want more!!

I am currently working and going to school, I fantasize everyday of an adventurous, more meaningful life. 

I know it may sound brash of me to want to pick up and leave my life behind, maybe it’s even irresponsible, but this is my life and I want to make something of it. I want God to make something of it. 

What are some avenues you have gone through in order to travel or even accomplish a seemingly unattainable goal?  I’m very curious to know so please, I encourage you to leave a reply. 

~xo Val



People Watcher

I am the type of person who really enjoys examining those around me. 

Everyone is a uniquely designed individual and it fascinates me to witness those quicks first hand. 

It may sound a little creepy, but it’s all in good intention. I feel by understanding others, it helps me better understand who I am and more importantly, who I am in Christ Jesus. Until next time,

~ the curious one 


 Do you enjoy people watching? 


The Beauty of Silence 

It’s currently 12:33 am and it’s so quiet in my living room; the only audible sound is a faint buzzing noise. It’s the sound of the appliances running and life continuing as everyone around is in a deep slumber. Silence is almost always the key to feeling calm. 

In the midst of my sometimes crazy schedule and never ending to do list, I always allow myself to retrieve back into a quiet place (my safe place) and bask in the comfort of not having to meet anyone’s expectations and where my only worry is to just be me. It’s a profound occurrence, when I enter into this state, it reengergizes me back to a fully charged human. 

Silence is peaceful, silence is key.