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Superbloom in California

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It is the middle of spring and California is blooming. A few months back, I ventured to Lake Elsinore to see what all of the hype was about with these wildflowers, particularly the eye-catching poppy flowers, and why there were the talk of the town. After all, they are just flowers, right?

After doing some research via the inter webs, I soon found out the flowers had bloomed due to the unusual rainy season we had been experiencing. We had been in a drought for seven years and these beautiful flowers signified the end of the dry winters and even dryer summers. As I was walking up the side of the hill to witness this rare event for myself,  I started to think about my own “superbloom” and the trials I had to endure in order to get to the place I was at. A place of serenity and self-acceptance.

Like the flowers, I had been stuck in conditions that prevented me from reaching my full potential. I was hindered and bonded by toxic roots.

Towards the beginning of the year, I had experienced so much change that effected me in a negative way. I was heartbroken, confused, and searching for a new place where I could fit in. I was going through a dry spell in my life and it had pruned me of all of my beautiful leaves, my color was stripped to grey.

Breakups are complicated and messy, changing jobs is scary and uncertain, and cutting out toxic people is never an easy feat.

Standing amongst the poppy flowers in their mystical field felt surreal.

I had reached a destination that made it easier to think with a clear mind and use my imagination to propel my dreams into new and elevated places.

I have come to realized that it takes truly taxing seasons in life to fully appreciate ones life and in those seasons one is able to discover who they truly are.

I get what all the hype is about now.

I too have come out of the drought and I stand tall through adversity, displaying my bright colors and soft petals proudly.

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Until next time,

Val

 

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Big Little Differences

Hey all!

I hope that you all are enjoying your week. As I took the time to fill my agenda with my daily obligations (such as work meetings and school deadlines) I began to ask myself, “Am I spending the majority of my time doing things that I love or at least something that brings me joy?”.

I realize that we all have obligations to work, school, or even social events that we would rather cross off our literal or figurative calendars, but that is just not the reality we live in. What I strive for in my own life is balance.

I realize that it is easier said than done, but trust me, it makes all of the difference. For every terribly boring task I am able to complete, I reward myself with something that brings me joy.

Such things include:

  • Watching an hour of YouTube
  • Reading for pleasure
  • Calling a friend
  • Painting my nails
  • Applying a glorious facemask
  • Journalling
  • Buying an article of clothing
  • Etc.,

Granted, each reward is awarded based on the amount of tasks completed or the complexity or time of a project. Having equated ratios is also key.

Another thing I am striving for this month is to weed out habits, people, and commitments that are toxic or that distract me from the important things in life.

I often find myself being that “yes” person, never wanting to disappoint or let anyone down (even if it is at my expense). One of the many things that brings me joy in life is helping others and volunteering, but on the other hand, I am a people pleaser so I allow these acts of service to take over every weekend and fill every gap of freetime that I have.

Again, balance keeps the unnecessary stresses at bay. Saying “yes” less often and removing myself from people and environments that make me feel inferior will improve my self-esteem and self-worth. In my twenty-four years of life on this Earth, I have come to the conclusion that you cannot please everyone and that I am allowed to put myself first. I should not allow myself to be put in an environment that leaves me feeling as though I need to change who I am in order to find approval from others. It simply is not worth it. This month I want to make small changes that will increase my happiness and genuinely alter my mindset and perspective in a positive way. I know that it is possible because I used to live that way. 2019 is the year that this effortful behavior continues.

 

 

 

 

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Finding Joy 

The responsibilities of our everyday lives can sometimes cloud our joy. We become so fixated on our jobs, school work, social lives, ect that we neglect the simple things in life. When was the last time you thought to yourself “thank God that I am healthy” or “I am so blessed to have an incredible support system”? Materialistic things are nice, but they aren’t everything and the joy they bring you does not last forever. Being a successful business person is an amazing accomplishment, but there is more to life than that corner office. God is everywhere and in everything. It’s time to put down your phone (after reading this of course) and set aside the laptop and just enjoy the simple, little treasures in your life. Work hard, but love harder. I challenge you to rediscover your joy. 

Today, I rediscovered my joy by taking a car ride with my mom and sister 

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The Patriot 

  

  
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It’s overwhelming to know that the reason we live in such an amazing and free country is because of the selfless acts of others. I wrote a little poem as a token of my admiration and apprection for those individuals who have sacrificed so much for America. Our forefathers were brave enough to stand up for our rights and our military is brave enough to continue to fight for our freedom. 

“With every explosion in the sky, a soldier has died. We are selfish, they are selfless. The true American hero does not wear spandex and a cape. Instead, they are covered in green and black war paint” ~Valerie Villar 7.5.15

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Flashback Friday: 1 

It’s always nice to look back on the greatest times in life and just appreciate all the incredible people and experiences that have influenced you along the way. Every Friday, I’ll post a “flashback Friday” to give all of you an insight into who I am and some  of the things that bring me joy.  

         
 This photo was taken two months ago in Mexico. I was so fortunate to have gotten the opportunity to take a cruise to Catalina island and Mexico for spring break. This photo is so special to me because it reminds me why I want to continue to travel. Traveling to a new place can be daunting and a little odd at times, but the experiences and impression it leaves is priceless! 

~sincerely, the reminiscer 

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A journey of self discovery 

What do you want to be when you grow up? This very question has haunted me throughout my young adult life. You see, I’m twenty years old and I still have no clue as to “what I want to be.” 

I do not believe I am good at a lot of things, but the things that I am good at, I try to sharpen. 

Today I choose to “accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.” 

This life is too short to be unsure and idle. I want a fulfilling life full of love, laughter, and a whole lot of amazing memories. That’s what I want to be when I grow up… I want to be happy and sure of my God given gifts  

~sincerely, the optimist 

 

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Brain Farts 

I’ve spent the pass hour trying to think of an engaging topic to blog about and my brain is just mush. I started a post discussing the reason why summer is such a popular season to why leather coaches are a bad idea. It’s literally embarrassing how I was trying to convince the people of WordPress to read that mix of randomness and inferiority. 

The reason why I was so keen on posting an entry is, I want to challenge myself and post everyday. I feel as though this exercise will strengthen my skills as a writer and prompt my creative juices. I’m a self motivated individual and this blog is extremely important to me, therefore, it is my responsibility to grow this creative space into something I can be proud of. 

~xo Val Gal 

  

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The Solo Traveler 

The experience of traveling alone, to a destination, is nearly indescribable. 

When traveling alone, you are solely dependent on your intuition and instincts to get you from point A to point B, how liberating. 

Whenever I get the opportunity to travel alone, I’m able to experience the journey with unadulterated eyes. I am more aware, more appreciative of the environment that surrounds me. 

If you are even able to travel alone once, I encourage you to take the leap of faith.  Just go! 

~aspiring nomad 

 

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Hard work eventually pays off 

Staying up late really makes me reevaluate my life. I feel the need to be of service to others and travel around the world to show those in need the love of Jesus. Each day is a step I take closer to achieving these dreams. I can sometimes loose sight of it when doing some pretty mundane tasks. I need to remember that my 4 hour school day and my 8 hour work day are excruciatingly boring, but it’s not what I’m doing to do forever. I definitely wasn’t designed to live the typical 9-5. I’m looking forward to my pending, unconventional career. Thank you Jesus for your continual blessings and help me to bless others #latenightthoughts   

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The Pressure of Being a Girl 

Do you remember waking up an hour before school just so you can look semi presentable? Well in high school, I was that girl. The insecurities stemmed far back into my younger years and affected every area of my life. 

Each day I went to school to get an education, but my main concern was “what are people going to think of me?”
The stress and anxiety from my insecurities consumed my thoughts. I would refuse to go out in public. Contributing to this solitary behavior was the fact that I had been bullied since middle school. I had been told that I was ugly, stupid, worthless. Some might say sticks and stones, but having these negative words repeatedly told to a young and naive girl can be detrimental. Up until recently, I believed every word. 
Why would anyone ever love some that was so flawed? Why would anyone want to be friends with such a weirdo? Why was I born this way? Why can’t I just fit in? I tried and tried to reinvent myself every semester hoping that I would finally be accepted by my peers, maybe I would finally accept myself. 

Those years were some of the most difficult years in my life and I can stand here today and testify to every young girl out there who feels this way and say, it gets better! As cliche as it may sound, bad periods of life only last for a season. 

There was this quote from the movie Gods not Dead and it goes as so: “To the wrong person, you’ll never have any worth. To the right person you will mean everything”. This really struck a cord with me because in my adolescence, I surrounded myself with people who saw me as a burden, the last option. Luckily, I had the courage to break free from the negative people and prayed for good friends and confidence in myself. 

The parts in between are a blog post for another day, but the main thing is, I found happiness. I don’t hate myself anymore; I’m not fixated and consumed with self-hate. Each day I am leaning to love myself and each day, I step closer to finding who I truly am. I’m so thankful for the prayer and  support from my family through those dark years and I am so fortunate for the incredible friends I have now. I’m not who I once was and I’m on the path to becoming  who I’m meant to be. I’m so fortunate to have this forum to express my thoughts and also a place to paint my emotions with. 
Thank you for listening 

~the overcomer  

   

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